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Anon 1: Here you go!  Hope my quick google search helped.
Anon 2: Well, actually, no.  My mother dreamed of having children, and because she was able to (physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially), she had me and then later four of my siblings.  And even if she wasn’t any of those things, no matter what she chose, she has a right to her choices.
Anon 3:  Your first sentence already clues me in on your actual problem with abortion.  Beyond being afraid of female sexuality and the inability to handle it like a decent person, you can’t stand the idea of women being able to have a choice with their bodies.  Hell, you probably can’t even handle the idea of bodily autonomy for all people.  You think they should lose autonomy just because there’s a potential person, so you really couldn’t care less about the actual person.
Your message also reveals an astounding amount of cluelessness on this issue!

"just give birth to it and put it for adoption u don’t have to kill it."

1. You don’t “just give birth” to anything.  Pregnancy doesn’t work that way.  If you weren’t already aware, there’s usually about nine months of possible risks and complications.  It’s life changing.  Maybe you should talk to your parents (or people you know who have had children) about it.  Not so much about abortion, but about the pregnancy itself.  Please let them know you are desperately and completely clueless about the impact and changes that come with pregnancy and parenthood.  I’m afraid it’s urgent and you need to get this done as soon as possible, otherwise most people will not be able to take anything you say on this matter with a straight face.
2. I go over this all the time.  Putting up a child for adoption isn’t the alternative option for an unwanted pregnancy.  It’s the choice a person makes when they don’t want to go through parenthood.  Sometimes these things coincide, like not wanting pregnancy and parenthood.  Some people will tolerate the pregnancy and forgo parenthood.  And some people just go straight to parenthood!  See how that works?  Abortion is the alternative to a pregnancy.  Putting up a child for adoption is the alternative to parenthood.
3.  You mean, if I was a fetus.  Not a baby.  But a non-viable fetus that can’t feel and think.  I have enough respect for you to not continue with this line of thought.  You already should know that arguing about fallacious potential is ridiculous.  
But just so you know, I love my mom.  I believe that she is an actual human being whose worth is well above anyone or anything that threatens to take her bodily autonomy away from her.  She has a right to her body.  She is her own person.  Any person who doesn’t believe this about their parents should feel ashamed of themselves.

Anon 1: Here you go!  Hope my quick google search helped.

Anon 2: Well, actually, no.  My mother dreamed of having children, and because she was able to (physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially), she had me and then later four of my siblings.  And even if she wasn’t any of those things, no matter what she chose, she has a right to her choices.

Anon 3:  Your first sentence already clues me in on your actual problem with abortion.  Beyond being afraid of female sexuality and the inability to handle it like a decent person, you can’t stand the idea of women being able to have a choice with their bodies.  Hell, you probably can’t even handle the idea of bodily autonomy for all people.  You think they should lose autonomy just because there’s a potential person, so you really couldn’t care less about the actual person.

Your message also reveals an astounding amount of cluelessness on this issue!

"just give birth to it and put it for adoption u don’t have to kill it."

1. You don’t “just give birth” to anything.  Pregnancy doesn’t work that way.  If you weren’t already aware, there’s usually about nine months of possible risks and complications.  It’s life changing.  Maybe you should talk to your parents (or people you know who have had children) about it.  Not so much about abortion, but about the pregnancy itself.  Please let them know you are desperately and completely clueless about the impact and changes that come with pregnancy and parenthood.  I’m afraid it’s urgent and you need to get this done as soon as possible, otherwise most people will not be able to take anything you say on this matter with a straight face.

2. I go over this all the time.  Putting up a child for adoption isn’t the alternative option for an unwanted pregnancy.  It’s the choice a person makes when they don’t want to go through parenthood.  Sometimes these things coincide, like not wanting pregnancy and parenthood.  Some people will tolerate the pregnancy and forgo parenthood.  And some people just go straight to parenthood!  See how that works?  Abortion is the alternative to a pregnancy.  Putting up a child for adoption is the alternative to parenthood.

3.  You mean, if I was a fetus.  Not a baby.  But a non-viable fetus that can’t feel and think.  I have enough respect for you to not continue with this line of thought.  You already should know that arguing about fallacious potential is ridiculous.  

But just so you know, I love my mom.  I believe that she is an actual human being whose worth is well above anyone or anything that threatens to take her bodily autonomy away from her.  She has a right to her body.  She is her own person.  Any person who doesn’t believe this about their parents should feel ashamed of themselves.

stfuprolifers:

We can’t know someone else’s circumstances and we shouldn’t make their decisions. I believe abortion should remain legal, and women should be able to get safe abortion care.

I will help build a culture of empathy, justice, and support for access to abortion care and for the 1 in 3 women who will have an abortion in her lifetime. I pledge to help protect access to safe abortion care in my community.

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Anon 1: Of course! I normally do.  But since it was a submission, I leave the tagging to the submitter.  I just looked at the tags and added it.  It’s done.  Thank you.
Update & Edit: I did one better.  I also added the option to list those tags in the submission posts.  Thank you to everyone who called this out.
Anon 2: Thanks for sharing that!  Many anti-choicers put so much effort into abusing people, just imagine if those efforts went into actually caring about children and the quality of life.

Anon 1: Of course! I normally do.  But since it was a submission, I leave the tagging to the submitter.  I just looked at the tags and added it.  It’s done.  Thank you.

Update & Edit: I did one better.  I also added the option to list those tags in the submission posts.  Thank you to everyone who called this out.

Anon 2: Thanks for sharing that!  Many anti-choicers put so much effort into abusing people, just imagine if those efforts went into actually caring about children and the quality of life.

When I was 19…

When I was 19, I entered into what turned out to be a very abusive relationship. He beat me, raped me (vaginally and anally), controlled all the money I made, broke into my email accounts and got my friend and family believing I wanted nothing to do with them, and only let me out of  the house without him when I was at work.  At 20, I found out I was pregnant.  When I told him I didn’t want to keep the child (we lived in a rented room in a friend’s house, and couldn’t even afford to take care of ourselves), he said I was a selfish bitch, and he beat me until I miscarried. He refused to use birth control after that, and when my period was late, he would beat me until he was satisfied (either I started my period, or he had what he called “proof” that I miscarried).

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bebinn:

beautyofgrea:

prochoiceamerica:

Courts keep striking them down, yet states keep passing 20-week abortion bans. Mississippi might be next.

Can someone explain to me, in a nonviolent or attacking manner, why a twenty week ban on abortion is unacceptable?
You have twenty weeks, half of your pregnancy, to find out and decide on whether you want a child. Between 17-20 weeks, you can normally feel the child moving inside of you.
Why is a time limit unacceptable?
I am pro-choice but when you’ve chosen to let the child develop to a certain point, you don’t get to decide last minute to just evacuate it.

There are lots of reasons someone might get a later abortion! I have a list written up somewhere:
Denial of pregnancy (especially powerful after rape or incest, or in abusive situations)
No symptoms of pregnancy
No recognition of pregnancy symptoms
Raising money (look up “chasing the fee”)
Arranging transportation
Arranging care for dependents
Getting time off work (if it’s even possible)
State-mandated waiting periods
Misinformation and delays by crisis pregnancy centers
Dealing with the physical and psychological aftermath of rape
Obtaining parental consent or getting a judicial bypass
Unexpected life changes (losing a job, a home, insurance, a significant other)
Health concerns in the pregnant person or fetus that aren’t detected until later in the pregnancy
Any one of those on their own is an obstacle, but most of the time you’ll find more than one in play. So it’s not that people are just ambivalently twiddling their thumbs for 20 weeks, it’s a combination of a lot of different problems and holdups.

bebinn:

beautyofgrea:

prochoiceamerica:

Courts keep striking them down, yet states keep passing 20-week abortion bans. Mississippi might be next.

Can someone explain to me, in a nonviolent or attacking manner, why a twenty week ban on abortion is unacceptable?

You have twenty weeks, half of your pregnancy, to find out and decide on whether you want a child. Between 17-20 weeks, you can normally feel the child moving inside of you.

Why is a time limit unacceptable?

I am pro-choice but when you’ve chosen to let the child develop to a certain point, you don’t get to decide last minute to just evacuate it.

There are lots of reasons someone might get a later abortion! I have a list written up somewhere:

  • Denial of pregnancy (especially powerful after rape or incest, or in abusive situations)
  • No symptoms of pregnancy
  • No recognition of pregnancy symptoms
  • Raising money (look up “chasing the fee”)
  • Arranging transportation
  • Arranging care for dependents
  • Getting time off work (if it’s even possible)
  • State-mandated waiting periods
  • Misinformation and delays by crisis pregnancy centers
  • Dealing with the physical and psychological aftermath of rape
  • Obtaining parental consent or getting a judicial bypass
  • Unexpected life changes (losing a job, a home, insurance, a significant other)
  • Health concerns in the pregnant person or fetus that aren’t detected until later in the pregnancy

Any one of those on their own is an obstacle, but most of the time you’ll find more than one in play. So it’s not that people are just ambivalently twiddling their thumbs for 20 weeks, it’s a combination of a lot of different problems and holdups.

Thanks for sharing your rant!  There’s nothing wrong with people requiring some religious or spiritual support, but I can totally understand what you’re saying and where you’re coming from.  Pregnant people (whether their pregnancy is intended, unintended, or just completely unwanted) need help, not abuse that’s so often given to them by anti-choicers.

Thanks for sharing your rant!  There’s nothing wrong with people requiring some religious or spiritual support, but I can totally understand what you’re saying and where you’re coming from.  Pregnant people (whether their pregnancy is intended, unintended, or just completely unwanted) need help, not abuse that’s so often given to them by anti-choicers.

sexyrockerbitch:

stfuprolifers:

We can’t know someone else’s circumstances and we shouldn’t make their decisions. I believe abortion should remain legal, and women should be able to get safe abortion care.

I will help build a culture of empathy, justice, and support for access to abortion care and for the 1 in 3 women who will have an abortion in her lifetime. I pledge to help protect access to safe abortion care in my community.

PLEASE REBLOG AND SIGN HERE!

After signing, you can also choose to sign up for reproductive and sexual health information and activism opportunities!

Ummm no!  If these circumstances are so bad they can give it up for adoption!

You could have simply chosen to not sign the pledge in support of social justice.  You are free to your opinion.  But keep in mind that giving a child up for adoption is an alternative to unwanted parenthood, not an unwanted pregnancy.  You are quick to disregard the experiences of the person who would actually be going through this, which is the pregnant person.  You don’t just get pregnant and frivolously decide to give a child up for adoption.  There’s nine months that you haven’t thought of.  There are tons of risks and complications that may arise during a pregnancy that I bet you’ve forgotten.  

No one should be forced into remaining pregnant and then giving birth.  It is literally considered a form of torture.

"If these circumstances are so bad," we should be changing them, not punishing people who need help.

According to the World Health Organization, banning or restricting abortion only deteriorates women’s health, and I imagine that it wouldn’t just be women but anyone who has the ability to get pregnant.  The World Health Organization says, “When abortion is made legal, safe, and easily accessible, women’s health rapidly improves.”

We also know that in states that have a high number of restrictions on abortion, these states also have very low indicators of infant and child well-being.  Infants and children actually fare better in states where abortion is not as restricted. [source]

We should not make decisions for others.  Abortion should be available to people who need it.

We can’t know someone else’s circumstances and we shouldn’t make their decisions. I believe abortion should remain legal, and women should be able to get safe abortion care.

I will help build a culture of empathy, justice, and support for access to abortion care and for the 1 in 3 women who will have an abortion in her lifetime. I pledge to help protect access to safe abortion care in my community.

PLEASE REBLOG AND SIGN HERE!

After signing, you can also choose to sign up for reproductive and sexual health information and activism opportunities!

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I had an abortion yesterday. I'm cramping and I feel yucky, but I'm so relieved. I'm getting an IUD inserted at my follow-up appointment so I'll never have to go through this again. I'm very sure that I was right, but I also feel marked by stigma.

Anonymous

Thanks for sharing!  It’s brave.

Here are some places you can also share your story (also listed in references):

I’m Not Sorry

Exhale

ProVoice Support Blog

Hope After Abortion

The Thoughts Room

Backline

My Abortion, My Life

And of course, you are always welcome to inbox this page.

Thank you both for the support!
To Anon 1, no one should dispute whether or not an embryo or fetus is alive.  This is inarguable.  People are always more eager to listen when there’s some common ground, and since this point is actually correct, there’s no need to argue it.  But the abortion debate shouldn’t surround the life point.  It’s about bodily autonomy, which is something that would be sacrificed if fetuses are granted the ability to use someone else’s body without constant consent—a right that currently no one else possesses.  Even corpses require consent before legally obtaining any of their parts.  To ban or restrict abortion is like telling those who are able to become pregnant that their value is below those who are dead.

Thank you both for the support!

To Anon 1, no one should dispute whether or not an embryo or fetus is alive.  This is inarguable.  People are always more eager to listen when there’s some common ground, and since this point is actually correct, there’s no need to argue it.  But the abortion debate shouldn’t surround the life point.  It’s about bodily autonomy, which is something that would be sacrificed if fetuses are granted the ability to use someone else’s body without constant consent—a right that currently no one else possesses.  Even corpses require consent before legally obtaining any of their parts.  To ban or restrict abortion is like telling those who are able to become pregnant that their value is below those who are dead.

Thank you for posting!

Thank you for posting!